This blog is the introduction to my upcoming book:
Find A Way to Make A Way:
You're Either Part of the Problem or Part of the Solution!
"Enjoy the sneak peek! If you do enjoy it, stay tuned and come back to this site often as I will surely let you know when the book is available!
"Find A Way to Make A Way:You're Either Part of the Problem or Part of the Solution!" ©2007 H.S. Reed, Jr.
(E-book release date: June 22, 2007; Paperback release date: TBA)INTRODUCTION
As a kid I was not very popular. Probably, because I always had my own way of thinking. I was not quite a leader, but I was not quite a follower either. I was just always my own person. I was comfortable in my own skin, but at the same time, I just could not find my niche amongst my peers. Basically, I do not think I have ever met a person who shares my interests with the same passion I do. I mean I have friends with whom I share common interests, but in most if not all of my relationships, there is a point wherein which I see a bigger picture, or a different picture altogether.
Throughout my adolescent and adult life I learned to observe others, and learn through observation, the kind of man I wanted to be. I am still becoming that man, and I guess I won't know if I succeeded until I die and hopefully have the opportunity to actually, as the cliché goes, "see my life flash before my eyes." Through observation I have learned to see things as they really are, yet what I have also learned is that people in the world see things as they want them to be. In time they make things as such … sometimes for the better, sometimes not … most often not. Additionally, there are those who may see things the way they want them to be but do nothing in terms of action to make it their reality.
In the pages that follow I articulate what I have observed and experienced, and I submit them to you as lessons. I submit them to you as lessons because in retrospect I learned something from all of those observations and experiences, both good and bad. Some lessons are longer than others, and a few are just short and to the point. It should be understood that these are MY opinions. Just because they work for me, I do not assert that they will work for everyone. My advice is that you just read with an open mind & try them on to see if they fit. Take what works and discard what does not. After all, that's all I have done!
Looking back over my life, I can remember the things that mattered most in terms of how I viewed relationships and money. The reason being, the first relationship I ever witnessed – like any other child was that between my mother and father. I watched it disintegrate before my eyes and not only was there nothing I could do about it, I was only three years old, at which age, I had neither the knowledge nor experience to even think to try to do anything about it. I just knew that something was wrong. Growing up, I came to realize that the most important thing I had to get together was ME. I made my mistakes but I saw the importance of learning from them.
I came up with the title for this book by just reflecting over my life. I am in a happy place right now, and it's only getting better. The reason for this is because I spent several years getting my mind right and then after reaping the benefits from that course of action, I found myself in a position where I was able to get my money right by taking responsibility for my past debts and educating myself towards handling what I have now so I can have more in the future.
I only wish to share some ideas with you. I only want to share what has worked for me with the hopes that it may work for you. I want for this book to be the match that lights the fire under your bottom to demand more … to demand more not from the world, your job, or the people around you, but to demand more from yourself.
It is my hope that this book serves as a jump start to your soul, so that you can begin running towards achieving whatever you believe will make your life better. This book is mostly a testimony of my life's journey's past and present, as well as an extended hand inviting you to get on board and pay closer attention to your own life's journey.
One of my heroes is the motivational speaker, Les Brown – who often says, "You can't get out of life alive – so you might as well enjoy the ride!" This book deals mostly with my life and how the things I experienced and observed brought me to where I am and will take me to where I want to go.
Now, I am NOT promising you financial riches. Personally, I am comfortable, but not monetarily rich, so it would be unethical – hell, flat out wrong for me to call myself teaching you how to attain something I have yet to attain myself. However, I AM on my way to becoming financially secure, and what I am promising you is if you take the time to make the time, keep the faith, FIND A WAY TO MAKE A WAY, and discipline yourself to succeeding and making no excuses along the way, you will (like the rapper 50 Cent's debut CD is entitled) GET RICH OR DIE TRYING.
FIND A WAY TO MAKE A WAY. What does this mean? There comes a time in everyone's life when if having to endure struggle after struggle and setback after setback, he or she reaches a moment of clarity and says, "I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired and I have had enough." But just acknowledging you are dissatisfied about whatever your present situation may be does not make it better. It's a start, because you are acknowledging that things need to change. Like an addict who cannot really find his or her way to sobriety until he or she admits within themselves that they are addicted, you cannot find your way to brighter days until you first admit that there is a dark cloud over your head.
How important to you is finding a brighter day in your life? Do you really have to reach rock bottom in order to come to the realization that things in your life need to change? Some people do. If you are reading this, hopefully, you haven't reached rock bottom, but if you are there, I want you to keep the faith. It took some period of time for you to be where you are today, and it is going to take another period of time in order for you to get to where you want to be.
"When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on"
President Franklin D. Roosevelt
There are some things we can do and some things we can't do. It's easy to determine what we can't do. All we have to do is say, "I can't do it," and abra-kadabra … you can't do it. There are some things that we will do and some things that we won't do. It's easy to determine what we won't do. All we have to say is "I won't do it," and abra-kadabra … like magic, you won't. It's just as easy – yet at the same time difficult to say what you can and will do.
Talk is easy – and cheap; however, what makes it difficult is when you say you can, and when you say you will, you are making affirmations to yourself that – if you are a person of integrity – you have to commit and live up to. The words "commitment" and "integrity" will be repeated countless times throughout this book. Commitment means the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action. Integrity means adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
In order for you to be able to successfully FIND A WAY TO MAKE A WAY to overcome the obstacles you will face on your journey, you will have to bind yourself to your course of action, and you will have to be honest and true to yourself and to those around you. Now, when I say you have to bind yourself to your course of action that is not an absolute. There will come times when you will have to change your approach.
What you are in fact binding yourself to is the act of doing something over doing nothing. Integrity comes into play because you have to be honest with yourself when something isn't working, and whichever change in course you decide to take, you must honorable in those actions as well.